Real Relationships Require Honesty

March 11, 2026

Hey bestie,

I feel like I’m saying and doing all the wrong things, but I know that is because I’m not where I want to be. But I’m where I wanted to be 3 years ago. What I love about my relationship and where I value it most is our communication and honesty.

We don’t communicate perfectly. I misunderstand her and vice versa and we get reactive (hello, we both have Scorpio risings and I’m a Scorpio stellium). But most importantly we always connect after to talk about what happened, what feelings it brought up, and where the misunderstanding happened.

Most of the time I’m not intending to say what she thinks I am and vice versa. We’ve come a long way in almost 6 years and there’s no one who’s been willing to come back, do the repair work, and mean it.

I commit to what I can improve on with notes on where I’ll probably mess up, but will continue to pay attention to. She commits to what she can and together we make a plan.

Love is a feeling first and then a choice. We choose each other every day and we choose our family every day. I’m grateful for our love; it’s my lighthouse bringing me back home when I’ve gone out to sea too long.

No one is perfect, don’t let anyone fool you. But when you find someone that will be honest with you and love you, you can do anything. With love all things are possible.

With love and gratitude,

Patience